Research indicates that people with mentors perform better on the job, advance more rapidly in their organization and have more all-around job satisfaction. But finding a mentor isn’t easy. For the lucky ones, a mentor may end up being a relative, a family friend or a parent’s coworker. However, most people need to look beyond […]
Research indicates that people with mentors perform better on the job, advance more rapidly in their organization and have more all-around job satisfaction. But finding a mentor isn’t easy.
For the lucky ones, a mentor may end up being a relative, a family friend or a parent’s coworker. However, most people need to look beyond their inner circles to find a good mentor. And that requires patience, self-confidence and a little bit of nudging.
Identify your goals.
Many people fail at finding a mentor because they didn’t take the time to figure out why they even needed a mentor. And, just like any other type of networking, people can’t help you if you don’t know what you need from them.
Before you begin reaching out to potential mentors, create a mission statement for yourself that defines why you need mentorship. Make sure that your mission is clear during your exchanges with these people.
Use your Brazen Careerist profile to showcase your goals/mission for other members to see.
Ask good questions.
Penelope Trunk says, “People spend time thinking more about answers than questions, but it’s the questions that make you look smart.” Asking good questions is the best way to rope in a mentor.
One of the best ways to get better at asking questions is to start fielding other people’s questions more. A good way to practice is actually through Brazen Careerist groups. Join a group that looks interesting, browse the conversation threads, and reply to questions that grab your attention.
When you’re ready to start asking your own questions, a good place to start is in our Ask a Coach group.
Don’t be afraid.
Josh Hanagarne says that reciprocity is king. The worst that can happen when you reach out and ask someone to be your mentor is that they will say no. But you won’t know until you try.
More often than not, those who have been there before you want to help you. You just need to have the self-confidence to reach out with a clear goal in mind, ask good questions and occasionally nudge a little.
Remember, that it’s not just about asking for help, but showing your mentor what you can do for them.
A great place to start looking for mentors is during this Thursday’s Speed Mentoring event on Network Roulette. If you’re seeking mentorship, you’ll be matched with career coaches on Brazen Careerist. If you’re a coach, you’ll be matched with young professionals on Brazen Careerist who are looking for mentors. Click here to RSVP for this event >>